Behind The Scenes of Tristan Taormino’s Guide to Kinky Sex for Couples

The following is a guest post from Tristan Taormino, Director of Tristan Taormino’s Guide to Kinky Sex for Couples.

I recently had a blast directing a new sex education film called Tristan Taormino’s Guide to Kinky Sex for Couples, and I want to share a few behind-the-scenes stories about filming each scene.

The first scene features Lyla Storm and Danny Wylde, and it was the first time they’ve ever worked together. As a director, that’s always a gamble, but they both were really interested in working with the other one, so I cast them. Luckily, they had great chemistry immediately. There is something so sweet and amazing about capturing a couple’s first sexual experience together. We saw lots of genuine moments where they talked to each other about what they liked and spent time just discovering each other’s bodies. Lyla’s great because she’s not a lie-down-surrender-and-take-it kind of submissive. She’s more like, “Okay I am going to agree to play this role and have fun, but I’m a little bossy and bratty and that’s not going anywhere.” So, Danny had to work a little to get her to do what he wanted, and this made for an entertaining dynamic. He blindfolded  Lyla right off the bat, and it was fun to see him surprise her with various sensations when she had no idea what was coming, including a feather tickler. He then brushed Kama Sutra edible body dust on her chest and put edible strawberry-flavored Nipple Nibblers on her nipples. I’m not sure how the dust will read to viewers because it looks a little like flour, but it smells and tastes really good. Of course, the whole crew had to sample it! Massage oil candles  are one of my favorite toys we use in the movie. These candles burn at a low temperature, and after Danny spilled the hot wax on her body, he massaged her skin until the wax dissolved into oil. Then came another surprise, but you’ll have to watch to see what that is!

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I’ve shot Adrianna Nicole and Evan Stone before and they have one of the best connections of any pair I’ve directed. They just seem to really get each other, and they embody great verbal and non-verbal communication skills. Evan put Adrianna in bondage cuffs, and she really dropped into the role of his willing captive right away. Adrianna loves nipple clamps and we had this cool pair from the Sportsheets’ Sex and Mischief line, the kind with marabou feathers on them. The feathers on the clamps looked gorgeous against her pale skin. Before we shot the scene, we all talked about how it would go and agreed that Evan would do a lot of orgasm control and teasing. Once they got into it, Evan was having so much fun he abandoned the role of strict dominant—he just couldn’t withhold the Magic Wand vibrator or the resulting orgasms from Adrianna! That day, we had special visitors: a couple who won the chance to visit my set in a charity auction. They got to meet Adrianna and Evan and watch the scene from start to finish and were just blown away. Afterwards, they got their pictures taken with Adrianna and Evan in front of a Christmas tree. It was pretty cute.Tristan Taormino's Guide To Kinky Sex For Couples

It’s important to show diversity in kinky sex, so I definitely wanted to show female dominance and male submission in this movie. Aiden Starr is one of the most gifted dommes I know, so when I called her, I was curious about who she wanted to work with. She picked Christian, who is the go-to guy in porn for all things kinky and alternative. Plus, it’s perfect because Christian is the name of the dominant character in Fifty Shades of Grey, so I like the idea that we’re flipping that around. Aiden is the mistress of dirty talk and verbal domination, which really bring all her roleplay scenes to life. Christian works out so much that we only had one collar that would fit around his neck! (I realized too late that we could have snapped together two bondage cuffs and made them into a collar.) Aiden takes charge with such confidence and sexiness—she’s a great role model for women who want to explore their dominant sides. She’s tiny and quiet, yet she commands attention easily. When she says she is going to use Christian’s cock for her own pleasure, she doesn’t disappoint. He’s one of the only guys I know who can actually come on command, so it’s really hot when she makes him do it. They came up with the end of the scene themselves, where Aiden uses a vibrator  to make herself come, just out of reach of Christian. He just had to watch without touching.

The final scene is between Asa Akira and Derrick Pierce, and people who know my work won’t be surprised that it celebrates the butt! It starts out with a sexy spanking, where Derrick first uses his hand, then a fur covered paddle. Since the release of Fifty Shades of Grey, sales of Kegel balls (also known as Ben Wa balls or smart balls)  have been off the charts. But I haven’t really seen them used in sex ed or porn movies. I think people are really curious about this toy, so I wanted to incorporate it into a scene in this movie. When I was showing Asa all the toys I brought to set, I asked her about using the Luna Beads by Lelo . Asa’s first response was something like, “Oh, little balls, aren’t those quaint.” If you’ve seen what Asa’s orifices are capable of taking, you too might think that she’s way beyond Kegel balls. I told her “Let’s give them a try. If you don’t like them, you can always just stop.” Well as it turns out, when the balls were inside her pussy and Derrick spanked her, the balls jostled, which made them feel like they were vibrating, right against her G-spot—and that really turned her on. I loved to see her real reaction—her surprise at how much she liked them. Then they got into some great anal play, with two different butt plugs, including a cool metal one. Derrick fucked her in the ass and made her beg to come, which was easy for her to do with a vibrator on her clit. (Oh and when their scene was over, she was ready to take the Lelo Luna Beads  home! Of course I said yes.)

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