Farrah Abraham: Reluctant Porn Star?

Farrah Abraham is everywhere. There are apparently millions of people online who are willing to pay to see her get down and dirty with porn star James Deen. Although like many celebrities, she has maintained that her sex tape was only meant for her private consumption. She says, as a way to document her fabulous body at its peak. But she has also said that the act of making the video was to embrace her sexuality.

She told Entertainment Tonight:

I have no relationships and I’m, like, sad sometimes. So, taking all this into consideration, which some find it hard to, that’s what brought me here today. I felt this was my way of embracing my sexuality and being happy for me.

All of us use sex to enhance mood at one time or another. There is actually a biochemical response our body has to sex that leads to feelings of well-being. She seemed into it from her enthusiastic out of the gate anal scene (or should I say in to the backdoor) to her G-Spot squirting. Many celebrities have tried to reclaim and expand their own sexualities by doing sex tapes – granted, some meant to be leaked and some not. Either way, we all seem to have an appetite for this kind of content. Perhaps it’s voyeuristic nature we all have. We want to know what other people do in the bedroom so we can feel more normal ourselves. And celebrities definitely invite this comparison as they are in our cultural royalty. And in the mean time it has launched a few careers, did many of us really know who Kim Kardashian really was before her tape came out? Pam Anderson didn’t seem hurt by hers. And the Octo-Mom seems comfortable with her decision to lay it all out there.

reluctant porn starPeople will say how disgusting it is that our culture has a fascination with celebrity sex tapes. I would argue that it’s a much more primal curiosity. It’s our human nature to want to feel connected to other people and have them reinforce our attitudes and behaviors about sex. And it goes beyond sex to wanting to emulate them through fashion, music; you name it. Ultimately, if celebrities can release a sex tape and reframe it so they can feel more empowered by it, then more power to them. It’s a very vulnerable thing to share with the world and for Farrah a seemingly successful one. She has apparently outpaced Kim Kardashian’s downloads by several million. Her sexuality was pretty raw and unbridled in the video. I don’t think that is such a bad thing to see a young woman embrace her sexuality on that level.

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 is the resident sexologist at Adam & Eve and also runs a private practice and media consulting business. She has a Doctorate from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. Her professional affiliations include AASECT, SSSS, and the American Board of Sexologists. She also has a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and completed a postgraduate degree in Marriage, Family and Addictions Recovery Therapy.

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