The dating game is hard enough when searching out the ‘standard fare’ for partners, but when you throw a fetish into the mix, it can get even more mind boggling. For those out there that are seeking a partner with a desire for something different, there are a number of ways to go about finding a lover.
While you may not be able to go to the bar to pick up the partner of your dreams, there are a few places out there where fetish dating thrives.
Internet Dating Sites – For every type of person out there, there’s an internet dating site to suit your needs. Just under a quick search, we were able to find BDSM dating sites, Furry dating sites, as well as a dating site for every age group, race, income level and gender identity out there. If you dig even deeper, you may even stumble upon micro-niche dating sites for your very specific desire. Looking for a latex wearing transgendered older man? Let the search engines be your guide! The down side to fetish dating sites is that you get a lot of the ‘part timers’ who are only looking for a one night stand. You also don’t get a lot of actual face-to-face time, especially if your new ‘date’ doesn’t live local to you.
Conventions – If you’re more involved in your fetish’s ‘scene’, you may take part in conventions and other larger get together. Conventions are a great place to not only meet like-minded people, but more often than not they also have classes, lectures as well as shopping for those lifestyles that involve costumes, equipment other gear. The other up side to conventions – especially the larger ones – is that they draw a crowd that can come from other parts of the country, as well as around the world. So if you’re tired of the local scene and are looking for others to play with, conventions are a great way to expand your horizons in a face-to-face environment. The hard part about finding a new fetish lover at a convention is also based on the fact that it attracts those from all over – you may find yourself falling in love with someone from the other side of the country!
Fetish Clubs & Bars – Looking to get into the fetish dating scene in your local area? Fetish clubs and bars are one way to get yourself out there and meet new people. Found mostly in larger metropolitan areas, fetish clubs tend to be your standard club that has a ‘theme’ night every so often. For the big cities, you may be lucky enough to find a club dedicated to your fetish 24/7. (This tends to happen more often with BDSM clubs as there can be a great deal of large furniture involved!) The problem with finding a date at a fetish bar or club is that it tends to be the same ‘crowd’ coming to the establishment week after week. If you’ve already exhausted your option with the current nearby population, the chances of getting some ‘fresh meat’ into your life is pretty limited if you frequent the same bars and clubs.
Social Gatherings – The tried and trusted method of finding a date at a social gathering has been going on in the ‘vanilla’ world of dating since time began. Birthday parties, weddings and summer barbeques have been the matching ground for couples for years. Now transform this into your fetish’s version, and you have a place that you may just find your next lover. Obviously, this depends on you having already established friendships within your lifestyle, and may be a bit more difficult for those first entering into the scene.
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