Sex on the first date – is it the death nail in a potential relationship, or is it not that big of a deal? We gathered a collection of twenty and thirty something adults and asked them for their opinion on the matter. Have you ever had sex on the first date? Did it ruin the relationship down the line, or did it not make a difference?
If you’ve got a rule against making love after date number one, do you think it’s benefited you or held you back?
Charlie, 35 – I’ve had sex on the first date a few times, and it’s never seemed to make much of a difference. It was just another way to get to know my potential partner. If we hit it off in other ways, the sex never ruined things. If we didn’t mesh well, the sex didn’t make things any better. I think it’s just another aspect of a person to get to know.
Brenna, 24 – Not me – I’ve had a rule not to get that involved with someone I just met. I’m still of that ‘sex is to be cherished and special’ mindset, and I don’t think that you can make that level of connection on your first date. Sex before marriage – yes. Sex when you’ve just met a few hours ago – not so much.Eli, 30 – I’ve had sex on the first date a few times, and I do think it’s put a bit of a downer on the relationship’s path. When I’ve waited in the past, there’s that whole buildup and butterflies that can stretch over days/weeks/months following that first date. Recently, I’ve taken the slow and steady approach – like the whole ‘base’ system that used to be the talk back in the middle school days. Kissing on the first date, maybe some over-the-clothes action on the next few, then some manual stimulation a few more dates down the line. Really, the earliest I’ve had sex with date recently is around the 6th or 7th one.
Aryin, 27 – Are we counting oral sex as sex? Because I’ve certainly gone down on dates on the first date, but not actual penetrative sex. I know – it’s all sex at the end of the day, but for me, sucking on a guy’s penis or having him go down on me isn’t the same level as actual penis-to-vagina or penis-to-anus sex. I’m not sure if I’m actively avoiding it, but it’s not a first date activity that I’d had just yet.
Janell, 21 – While I personally have never had sex on the first date, it’s not something I’m totally excluding. I don’t think it would be that bad, as long as you are both on the same level as to what you want to get out of it.
Lisa, 33 – My husband and I had sex on the first date, and we’ve been married for 10 years now. Didn’t ruin things for us, so I’d suggest it could be the same for others.
So what are your experiences with sex on the first date? What are the pros and cons for some first date action? We’d love to hear from you – in either the comments below or over on our Facebook page.
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