Sex Tips For Your First Threesome

The date it set, the ‘third’ is picked out, and you’re getting ready to take part in your first ever threesome. This sexual experience is on a lot of couple’s bucket lists, but always has the possibility of going terribly wrong. From just awkward moments and unfulfilled fantasies to complete relationship breakdown, taking on a third lover isn’t something to sneeze at. How can you make sure that your very first threesome is a positive experience? Here are tips from experienced polyamorous lovers who are sharing their threesome experience.

The primary couple needs to fully communicate their expectations beforehand. Not all threesomes are alike. Some couples want to equally share in the sexual experience and take part in the action. Other couples are taking on a third so that one may watch the other have sex with someone new. Be sure that you and your partner know what the other wants from this experience. Certain sex acts may be reserved only for the primary couple. Other times it’s a free for all when it comes to lovemaking. Leave no possibility unanswered when you’re in the planning stages of your threesome.

The third person needs to be made aware of the couple’s limits and expectations. Once you’ve established your boundaries  as a couple, be sure your third knows them as well. They need to be clear in their minds as to what is and is not allowed. Also discuss the relationship as a whole – is this person involved for a one night stand? A longer term, but just sexual relationship? Or are they on their way to becoming a third member of your already established relationship? Picking up someone to have a fun night of sex with has a lot fewer strings attached than adding a new girlfriend or boyfriend to the mix.Sex Tips For Your First ThreesomeHave an ‘out’ plan if things don’t go well. So you’ve had dinner and a few drinks to lighten the mood, and you’ve head back to your place for the evening’s events. You now realize that this isn’t something that you really want. How do you communicate this with your partner before things get underway? If you’re too embarrassed to just say straight out that this isn’t working, come up with a ‘code’ with your partner beforehand that will let them know you want things to end there. Maybe a comment about the bad weather, maybe an offer to check in with the babysitter, something that sounds like standard conversation that lets your partner know that things are going to end there. Also agree that if this code phrase is used, there won’t be any argument to try and push it forward – a red light means stop.

Discuss the outcome as a couple before planning on your next meeting. Have a bit of a threesome-autopsy with your partner when the event is done. Did it go as planned? What would you change? Do you want to do it again? If so – will this become a regular thing with this third person, or are you looking to explore other ‘thirds’? You may have noticed that all the tips given are founded on open and honest communication – this is the number one rule to a successful threesome relationship!

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