• Make sure you are keeping your condoms in the right environment and for the right amount of time. Condoms like room temperature places, so your glove compartment or a wallet that you keep in your back pocket. They also have expiration dates printed on the box, as well as the individual packet. This expiration date not only covers the amount of time that the material that the condom is made of, but the freshness of any added liquids to the condom, such as lube or spermicide.
  

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• Take care when opening and rolling down your condom. Don’t rip open the packet with your teeth. Not only does it risk tearing the actual condom, it won’t taste great either. When you place the condom over the erect penis, pinch the tip so that you leave enough room for a reservoir. Keep this part pinched as you roll the remaining part of the condom down the shaft.

• When you are adding lubrication, only used a water based lube. Oil based lubes, lotions, and even foods can wear down the thin layer of protection and eventually break the condom itself.

• The typical condom is made for a man with a penis length of four to seven inches. If you are longer than this, or you find condoms either don’t fit your entire shaft or are much too tight, you should look to get condoms that are made for larger sized men.

• The majority of condoms are made from latex. If you have a latex allergy or sensitivity, there are condoms on the market made from sheep or lamb skin. If you use sheepskin or lambskin condoms, please be aware that these do not prevent the spread of sexually transmitted diseases. If you prefer a non-animal based condom, there also condoms made from polyisoprene, which do stop the transmission of AIDS and other STDs.

• Needless to say, if your condom breaks during intercourse, discontinue sex and put on a new condom. Never reuse condoms.

-          Lower inhibitions can lead to unsafe sex. Sure, we all love that relaxed buzz that we can get from having a few drinks, but it can also cloud your decision making processes. You may forget, or even make the ‘decision’ to forge the condoms and go without ‘just this once’. What you need to remember is that it only takes one time to transmit that disease or conceive an unplanned pregnancy.

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-          Junior might not want to perform. It’s not just an old wives’ tale – alcohol can lead to temporary erectile dysfunction and you won’t be able to reach your full height during intercourse. Some men may have the opposite problem and they may be able to achieve an erection, but it says around long after the act is done, and won’t drop down to its normal resting position.

-          Ladies, it won’t feel as good. Studies have shown that women with a higher blood alcohol content take longer to achieve orgasm. In addition, when they do achieve orgasm, it doesn’t last as long and it is less intense than their sober counterparts. So while you may feel less inhibitions when you have a few too  many to drink, the outcome won’t be as pleasurable.

-          Gents, it won’t feel as good, either. Just like with the ladies, a higher BAC means that testosterone production is limited, causing issues with reaching orgasm. Not only will you have trouble getting it up, you’ll soon realize that it’s going to take a lot longer for you to cum. When you do cum, it doesn’t feel as intense as it usually does.

-          Even if you have the best sex ever – will you remember it? You may have the most amazingly mind-blowing sex that has ever happened between two people. But, you’ve had so much to drink that you blacked out and can’t remember a damn thing. What’s the use of having a earth-shattering orgasm if you can’t remember it the next morning?

Remember, current recommendations suggest that a woman have only a single unit of alcohol per day, and men to have less than two per day. But, each of us metabolize alcohol in different manners, so you are the best judge as to how much is too much for you. One last thing – if you are drinking at all, don’t even think of driving. Adam and Eve want all our fans to have a safe Valentine’s Day! 

1. When flowers start to die, they drop their leaves and petals all over the place. When a sex toy starts to die, you just have a slightly less powerful sensation until you change the batteries.
2. Would you rather have your friends be jealous of the fact you’ve got some flowers, or neighbours be jealous of the amount of screaming and moaning coming from your bedroom?
3. Sex toys travel well. When you need a little pick-me-up on a business trip, it’s a lot easier to transport a small bullet vibe than a dozen roses.
4. Your partner will get as much enjoyment out of a new sex toy as you will. Most guys aren’t that into flowers.
5. Have you ever heard of an allergy to vibrators?
6. Six weeks after getting flowers, they’re sat at the bottom of a garbage barrel or in your compost pile. Six weeks after getting a rabbit vibrator, you’re still amazed at how you never have cum so hard in your life.
7. Flowers can bring bugs into the house. The only time you’ll get insects on sex toys is if you’ve been playing with them outdoors.
8. Getting flowers at work will make most of your female co-workers saying how sweet your man is. Getting sex toys at work will lead to much more interesting conversations.
9. There are dildos that are just as visually appealing as a bunch of flowers.
10. You can appreciate finger-tip vibes in the dark.
11. Flowers may be edible, but flavoured lubes and chocolate body paint are probably a bit tastier on the tongue.
12. Taking a shower with a handful of tulips doesn’t quite have the same seductive factor as bringing in a waterproof vibrator.
13. You can enjoy a nipple clamps when your nose is all stuffed up with a cold.
14. The way a woman’s vaginal area looks after a few moments with a pussy pump is better than any orchid could ever look.
15. If you really want a flower, you can get the best of both worlds.

Sure, you may think that flowers are less “forward” and a bit more tactful for those relationships that are just starting out at this time of the year, but for those of us who have been in long standing partnerships and are used to getting the traditional bunch of roses each February 14^th, a sex toy is a great break from the monotony and a sure fire way to get the action you’re looking for that evening!

Location, Location, Location. While the majority of dating sites cover all the United States, chances are you’re searching for someone a bit closer to home. Try and find a site that draws is members from a specific area. This is especially important if you happen to live outside America, and would prefer not to be restricted by the smaller “international” areas that a lot of US-based sites have. Even if you are American, if you are living in New York City, you’ll be more likely to have a successful dating life with another person within the boroughs than you will from a few time zones away.

Finding a dating site

Find sites specific for your ‘type’. For those ladies who prefer a man in uniform, there are actually dating sites on the net that tailor to your specific idea of Mr Right. This is the same for those with certain kinds of fetishes like bondage and dominance, or ladies who aren’t looking for a longer term relationship and prefer a few one night stands to get them through the cold nights. Before you get a bit judgemental, think about it. Joining a ONS dating site beats trying to shrug off a guy you met at a club who wants a bit more. At least you both know going into it that you’re just looking for a warm body that night! If you have a type, more than likely there is a dating site out there for you.

Don’t lie in your profile. Would you want to have a second date with a guy who is nothing like the guy who’s profile you have been scouring for the last few days? The same goes for him. Everyone who joins dating sites are looking for at least a few specific qualities. Don’t waste anyone’s time saying that you’re a Rhodes Scholar with a 34DD chest when you’re nowhere near that. You want to find someone who likes you for who you are, not some imagined persona on a screen.

Throwing all your eggs into one basket isn’t a great plan. Join multiple dating sites. Try one of the biggies that you see on TV, and also try a couple smaller groups that are aimed at niche groups (big beautiful women, residents of DC, or nurses). You’ll open yourself up to a few more pools of guys, and in the event that you get flooded with dating offers, you’ll have the pick of the litter rather than settling for someone you aren’t too crazy about.

Keep in mind that dating sites also tend to run specials during the holidays. Keep an eye open for free trial weekends, promotional offers, and other ways to save money when you’re looking to sign up for a site. If you have any friends who are currently on dating sites, see if they have any offers for sign-ups, where both the member and you can benefit.

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2. Be honest with your prospective partners. Don’t hide the fact that you have been with men before. This doesn’t give you carte blanche to talk about each and every male experience you have taken part in, but don’t lie either. Also let them know that you haven’t been in a relationship with a woman before. Just like in a straight relationship, some women don’t want to have to ‘teach’ a new partner all the ropes, while some live the idea of popping a lesbian-cherry.

3. Don’t change who you are. You don’t have to “butch” up or try and fill any kind of lesbian stereotype. You want another woman to like you for who you are – not some act that you are putting on. Don’t assume that the type of woman you are looking to get into a relationship with will want a certain look. Sometimes ‘femme’ lesbians like other ‘femmes’, sometimes they prefer a more ‘butch’ appearance. Just like how some ladies like their men rough and ready, while others prefer them suited and booted.

4. Don’t expect the relationship to be like those you have with men. You aren’t dating men, so don’t expect the same things. Go into the process with an open mind and a clear idea that you are venturing into new waters, so some things will be quite different. Don’t make the assumption that all those little things you hate about dating guys will disappear as soon as you start pursuing a woman, but also don’t depend on the more positive sides being there.

5. Make friends with other bisexual women. Networking is always a great way to get to know a new environment. Think about when you started a new job – only after you made a few friends did you find out the real ins and outs of the job. Finding bisexual friends will open you up to a whole school of information that you may not have access to before, including the best places to go, which women have reputations and should be avoided, and how to cope with other people who may not approve of your new dating exploration.

1. You’re sick of buying more batteries. There are a number of rechargeable sex toys on the market, including bullet and rabbit style vibrators. You are going to pay a bit more for these battery free alternatives, but you will save the money over time with forgoing the additional purchases. The other great thing about rechargeable is that they tend to hold onto full power for longer, as opposed to battery powered vibes that start slowing down when the juice starts running out.

2. It’s taking longer to orgasm. This could be caused by two reasons. Either the toy isn’t working as well as it used to, or you are becoming too used to that particular type of stimulation. Sex toys aren’t meant to last forever, and the cheaper the toy, the sooner it’ll start showing its age. Even if your twenty dollar vibe is standing the test of time, you body might not be as turned on by it as it used to be.

3. Phthalates are in the toy’s materials. The majority of jelly sex toys contained phthalates before it was linked to cancer. Using toys with phthalates may increase your risk for cervical cancer. Instead, get a toy that’s made from plastics or other materials that won’t expose you to any deadly diseases. At the very least, slip a condom on your phthalate containing toy for some safe solo sex.

4. It’s starting to look or smell a bit funky. If your current toy is made from a porous material (like the previously mentioned jelly), it could be holding onto dangerous bacteria. Even if you always use a condom on your toy, and clean them after every use, the materials can still pick up stray body fluids and other nasties. So if your toy isn’t as clear or shiny as it used to be, it’s time to toss them in the garbage.

5. You feel like it’s time for an improvement. If you’ve been eyeballing a new vibe, or your partner wants to try one of the male masturbators on the market, give it a try! A lady should have a collection of toys at her disposal, and a couple even more. Be sure not to skimp on the funds, though. Cheaply made vibrators might be pleasing to the wallet, but they might not always be pleasing to other parts of your body – especially your head when they break down sooner rather than later! Sex toys can be a serious investment in some cases, so always do your research to find the best ones available.

1. No teeth, but lots of tongue. Basically, if it’s not warm and wet, it shouldn’t be touching a dick. This is especially important when you are giving attention to a guy’s most sensitive part of the penis- the head. Use your hot tongue to flick and tease his member, but lay off the teeth. It might seem at bit exciting to graze your pearly whites against his rock hard body, but it’s actually a mega turn off to many guys.

2. Be open to new things. This means involving different kinds of toys in your oral sex session, including anal sex toys. If your guy is up for it, you should be as well. A man’s “p-spot” is best accessed through the behind, so don’t automatically assume that if a guy wants his ass played with, he’s gay. It can be the icing on the cake when it comes to the perfect blow job. If he’s not up for back door stimulation, he may want to try out a small bullet vibe on his balls. See, you can share your toys! Keep in mind, though, that not every guy likes the additional stimulation – especially if he is prone to shoot off sooner than he’d like to. For some men, it’s all about the single action and concentration on that one source of stimulation.

3. Don’t concentrate on just the shaft. Like we previously mentioned, the tip of the penis is much more sensitive than the rest of the member. In addition, you should also give a little attention to the balls as well. They appreciate some tongue licking and while they won’t make him come exclusively, they’ll help your overall performance. You can also use your hands to your advantage, and keep them busy.

4. If you are really enjoying yourself, let him know that. A few moans (real, not “porn star over the top”) and some dirty words can turn him on almost as much as your mouth can. The best thing, according to the majority of the men on our panel, is when a woman gets so turned on herself that she gives herself a hand and gets herself off while working on getting him to come. Simultaneous orgasm is as close to bliss as you can get!

5. Be into it! A guy can always tell when a woman doesn’t really want to give a blow job. Enthusiasm is one of the best oral sex tools that a woman has in her collection of tips and tricks. If you really don’t like blow jobs, or are a bit adverse to certain things that you think he likes (like swallowing or butt play) communicate that with your partner. Oral sex may seem like a one way street, but there are two people’s desires and emotions involved.

Stop checking your phone every few seconds. You’re in a date and it’s all about a good conversation. But how can you achieve that if you interrupt his words every 5 seconds because you have to update your status on Facebook or tweet your friends about your date? Wouldn’t you feel bad if he’s going to do the same habit? You know you need attention and so is your guy.

Tell him if you’re upset the first time he asks. I know, I know, this should be my resolution too because we, women like to keep things to ourselves and pretend that everything’s okay. We wait until they’re all piled up and burst out whenever we want to. I think what men want to happen is for us to be more open so that we can address the problem right away and start moving on!

Stop worrying too much about how you look. We always worry about our pimple or stretch marks but what we don’t know is guys don’t really care too much. He was attracted to you that is why you are together and all these worries can be temporary. You don’t have to cancel a date just because a small zit just came out of your face. That’s why concealer was invented, girl!

Don’t be too smart all the time. This usually happens when you two have an argument and you always want him to look bad for you to be right. But please learn to be responsible of your mistakes. Give and take should be within a relationship for it to succeed. You can’t always blame your partner because the next thing you know, he’s out of bed and looking for other women who can take responsibilities.

Stop adding the amount of difficulty in your life. We girls can’t say no to people and this sometimes causes our stress. It’s okay to help but everything that’s too much is bad. In fact, we usually drive all our negativities to our partner when we can’t handle difficulties anymore. You have to learn when to say yes and no. Do more for yourself because you deserve it! Sometimes, being selfish is good. Giving more time to yourself and your partner can lead to a healthier relationship.

Don’t take yourself too seriously when asked to do fun thing to spice up your lives. How many of you girls considered this as “he isn’t happy with me anymore!” Why can’t you both have a little harmless fun? Your guy may just want you two to do things other than the usual. It’s the same as how bored you can get if he’s having sex with you in only one position every night. This doesn’t always mean that he’s tired of you but a little spice to your relationship can’t kill! Be more open to fun and you will be both happier with each other, I promise!

1. “I will be engaged by such-and-such a date.” Unless you are the one going to be proposing, this goal is one that almost completely out of your control – especially if you aren’t in a relationship to start with. There are a number of alternatives that would go much further in the marriage-to-be department. Rather than concentrating on getting the ring, why not set yourself a goal to spend more quality time with your loved one to get your relationship at a point where being engaged isn’t too far-fetched. If you aren’t even at the relationship stage, and you are just starting to look for a partner, creating a goal that involves you going out and being involved in situations where you are likely to meet a compatible person are more on the realistic side.

2. “I will learn a new word meaning every day.” This is so middle-school, it surprises us that it’s even still a common New Year’s resolution. The fact that they make daily calendars for this type of thing also sends off signals that it’s not a truly valuable resolution. If you’re looking to raise your IQ, or increase your vocabulary, try reading more. Newspapers, novels, non-fiction or even a magazine can do more for your word-power than opening up a dictionary and choosing a random word to memorize for the day. A resolution to read 12 books during 2012 will go further to get your brain in gear.

3. “I will make my body look just like<insert Hollywood actress here>.” Working on your body is a frequent desire for the New Year. Becoming a clone of a starlet who has their own personal chef and trainer may not only be financially impossible, but biologically as well. There certain body shapes that can’t be obtained if you have a given set of genes or a really good plastic surgeon. Rather than trying to create the body of someone else, try becoming more comfortable with your own body. If you could use a few improvements in the physical form department, set yourself a resolution to work out at least three times a week, or run a certain number of miles per day. The target isn’t so much a weight reading on a scale or a dress size, but getting your body as fit as you can be, along with a healthy diet.

While we are sure that none of you have fallen into these resolution-traps, you might see that certain aspects of your desires may tread on some of these no-nos. New Year’s Resolutions should follow the SMART philosophy for targets : Smart, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely. That way, you won’t be in a position to let yourself down over the new year, and you can give yourself a much deserved pat on the back when you reach your goal, or at the very least, give yourself an idea of where you are come June when New Year’s resolutions are a distant memory.

Naughty Notes – This one surprised the women who were interviewing the men chosen to take part in this study group. The men all said that getting a sexually explicit note from their wives and girlfriends really turned them on and made them want to rip off her clothes at the first opportunity. One of the guys in the group said that his wife regularly sends him pornographic emails to his personal smartphone on a Wednesday afternoon, just when the day seems like it will never end. This gives him enough motivation to get the work day over and done with, so that he can get home as soon as possible to live out the little scene she typed up for him earlier in the day.

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Kinky Clothing for her – The guys all confirmed that men love the visual stimulation they get from seeing their significant others in something downright dirty and kinky – especially if they are the shy and quite type to start with. The age-old fantasy of a hot woman in a trench coat with a bustier, garter belt and stocking, and high heeled shoes underneath is very much still alive and kicking. Christmas is an excuse to break out all those naughty elf and dirty Mrs Claus costumes that the sex toy and underwear web sites start selling this time of the year.

Morning Hand Jobs – The fellas on the panel agreed that they all want their ladies to take advantage of their morning wood. They also agreed that a full on sex session in the mornings is great, but not always time-sensitive, especially for those mornings when they have to go to work. The hand job is a quick and somewhat clean way for their other halves to get them off without too much effort. It’s a great way to get him in a good mood for the rest of the day – especially if that day involved following their girlfriend around a crowded mall for several hours this afternoon getting the last of the Christmas shopping done!

Anal Sex – While some ladies my argue that the phrase “it’s better to give than to receive” may be up in the air for this item on our sexual Christmas wish list, the guys in the group were all about giving it to their ladies up the butt. A few even confessed that they enjoyed it when their women took a turn and were on the giving end of things, with the use of toys and clean fingers. This discussion was more of the more detailed of our session, with those guys who were pro-receiving attempting to break down the barriers that some men associate with receiving anal sex. By the time that the group had disbanded, I could tell that a couple of the men would be bringing this little tid bit up with their ladies later that night. And if any of you want to try it? Don’t forget to use Adam & Eve’s Ultimate Anal Lube to have a longer-lasting anal sex!

Blowjobs – hands down (no pun intended), the highest ranking XXXMas wish for the guys on our panel was the good ole fashioned BJ. But not just any ordinary blowjob, a ‘surprise’ oral sex session. Whether it was in the shower, while he’s washing the dishes, or when he’s in a zombie-like trance watching the football game, an unpredictable blow job was what our men wanted the most.