Bedroom Feng Shui Can Equal Better Sex

Say What Shui?

Feng Shui is system of placement of household items that creates the positive flow of chi (energy) in one’s home or business. It originated in China thousands of years ago. Its principles rely upon a variety of complex formulas, and there are many different schools of Feng Shui.

How Can Feng Shui Improve Sex?

Utilizing the concepts of Feng Shui can benefit one’s romantic and sexual life – at the very least it can help you to put mental energy into what you really want. After all, thought is energy (scientifically speaking). These general guidelines can be used to help rev up anyone’s sexual and romantic life.

Here are seven basic Feng Shui tips to get you started…

  1. Keeping your relationships happy: The far right corner of the home is the “relationship point” of the house. Keeping this area intimate and cozy is important. Some choose to put a relationships shrine in this area. In this shrine can be placed things that represent beauty and positive attributes – a favorite book, love poems, flowers, crystals, etc. – whatever items you wish. What matters is that you place things here with intention.
  2. Get rid of clutter – literally and figuratively: Only keep things in your bedroom that have a purpose or meaning – everything else should be purged or organized neatly (and preferably out of sight). A client has even told me that her orgasmic response improved when she removed clutter from her bedroom, because her mind didn’t wander so much. The bedroom is not the ideal place for pictures of extended family. Having the in-laws hover over you while you make love or rolling over onto games and books doesn’t usually elicit a sense of romance. There are other areas of your home that are more appropriate for these items. Make your bedroom your sanctuary.
  3. Bed as the focal point: Your bed should not be placed directly under a window, and it should not be crowded into a corner. These positions tend to create a sensation of oppression and lack of security. If you can, arrange your bed in the middle of the room. Ideally, you should be able to walk around three sides of the bed. The bed should be the focal point of the room, as it is the first thing you see. Also, it’s a “no-no” to have anything under your bed, because it can bind up your chi –this is not a place for storage! Wobbly or squeaking beds also create problems – they can create inhibition during sex, and could even create wobbly relationships. Make sure your bed is solid.
  4. Remove negativity: Electronics put off negative chi, called sha, and they also put off electro-magnetic fields (referred to as EMF). It’s best to keep electronic clocks and gadgets at least a couple of feet away from your bed, and if possible, keep them out of view. Either don’t put a TV in your bedroom or keep it and stereo equipment behind an armoire. This goes for not bringing the laptop into bed with you too!
  5. Make sensuality a priority: Pay attention to the artwork in your bedroom. Replace images of lone figures with images of couples, or items in pairs. Include artifacts that make you happy every time you look at them. Flowers, favorite books, and small sculptures are perfect types of decorations for the bedroom. Generally, warm colors are best for bedrooms. You can experiment with different shades to see what feels best to you, whether it’s subtle shades of pink or more vibrant reds. Indulge in some sensual bedding. It doesn’t have to be silky or frilly – just sensual (whatever that means for you). High thread counts in warm colors are good. Bedding that makes you want to jump into bed – no matter what time of day it is – is great! Trust me; good bedding is definitely something that a potential partner will notice.
  6. Mirror, mirror on the ceiling: Mirrors are tricky. Many people like the idea of watching themselves have sex – however, mirrors activate chi and bounce it all over the room. If you have multiple mirrors in your bedroom, this creates erratic energy that may not be enjoyable for everyone. The bedroom is considered a yin space – an area with subtle and soft energy. To keep it this way, try to use mirrors sparingly. Alternatively, you can offset this strong energy by decorating the rest of the room with subtle colors rather than bright ones.
  7. Make space for your new lover: If you are trying to attract a long-term partner, create literal space in your bedroom for him or her. Leave a drawer empty, and try to not overwhelm the space with “your” things. A bed covered with stuffed animals and pillows comes to mind – not usually something that’s terribly sexually attractive. As you are arranging your bedroom, create mental images of the kind of sex/romantic life you want. Move with positivity.

Better sleep, an energized sex life, and a more positive frame of mind can all be attained (at least in part) by using the principles of Feng Shui in the bedroom. You have nothing to lose but a little bit of clutter!


 is the resident sexologist at Adam & Eve and also runs a private practice and media consulting business.  She has a Doctorate from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality.  Her professional affiliations include AASECT, SSSS, and the American Board of Sexologists.  She also has a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and completed a postgraduate degree in Marriage, Family and Addictions Recovery Therapy.

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