Beyonce’s Sexual Empowerment

“There is unbelievable power in ownership, and women should own their sexuality. There is a double standard when it comes to sexuality that still persists. Men are free and women are not. That is crazy. The old lessons of submissiveness and fragility made us victims. Women are so much more than that. You can be a businesswoman, a mother, an artist, and a feminist — whatever you want to be — and still be a sexual being. It’s not mutually exclusive.”

No this is not a quote from me or some well known sexual heath advocate. It’s from Miss Bey herself, Beyonce in a recent interview with Out Magazine. I wanted to talk about her pro-sexual self not because I think it’s ground breaking but because I can’t believe we still need people reminding us of the empowerment of women. Unfortunately, what the Booty-liscious singer says is only too true. There is still a double standard when it comes to women empowering themselves around their bodies and behaviors in the bedroom.Beyonce’s Sexual Empowerment

Many women still feel like they need a man’s validation in order to feel good about themselves. And it plays out in our lives from how we feel when we put on that slinky dress to initiating sex with our partners. I know women who are strong, self-starters in all other aspects of their lives from business to academics to child rearing but when it comes to asking for what they want sexually, they act as if I’ve just called them a whore.

Newsflash, liking sex doesn’t make you a whore. Wanting a little anal play doesn’t make you some deviant and masturbating doesn’t mean that you don’t still want to have sex with your partner. Our society still has a lot to learn and apparently even pop stars need to remind us occasionally.

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 is the resident sexologist at Adam & Eve and also runs a private practice and media consulting business. She has a Doctorate from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. Her professional affiliations include AASECT, SSSS, and the American Board of Sexologists. She also has a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and completed a postgraduate degree in Marriage, Family and Addictions Recovery Therapy.

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