Celebrity Transgender Turn-On
There’s been a lot in the media lately about seemingly heterosexual male celebrities getting it on with transgendered models and social media seems to be what is doing them in. Hank Baskett former NFL player, who is married (for the moment) to Girl Nextdoor Kendra Wilkinson was allegedly caught in an affair with Ava Sabrina London that involved mutual masturbation, following her passing a lie detector test given by a tabloid. Then there is the case of Casper Smart — Jennifer Lopez’s now ex-boyfriend — apparently he had the good sense to at least break up before his alleged relationships with both Sophie Vissa and Xristina Marie. In both of these circumstances social media played a large role in the hooking up and flirtation between parties. It may have also been the downfall, as screen shots are now appearing confirming texts from both men, some in Casper Smart’s case even have images of him that the transgendered lovelies have been showing around. All women claim that both knew that they were transgendered.If the allegations are true, what gives? Have these guys always been attracted to transgendered women? Was it only a passing experimentation? Is social media making it too easy to make even our most secret fantasies come true? Some would argue that the internet and social media is exposing people to fetish behaviors that they would not have been exposed to otherwise. Leading to more exploration of fantasy and sexuality in general than say, people would have encountered prior to the information age. Now, I am not trying to set up an excuse for these guys, especially if deceit of a partner is involved. But I personally wonder if it is more about people finally having an outlet to explore the spectrum of sexuality. That perhaps their erotic template (who they are attracted to) has always been titillated by the idea of fooling around with a transgendered person and now they just have a way to fulfill that desire. That it can – in the right circumstance – be a healthy thing to do. After all, why should any of us have to label ourselves gay, straight or otherwise? I think the internet has gone a long way towards breaking down those barriers and creating a space where people can fully be themselves sexually. Just don’t cheat on your wife while you are doing it.
Dr. Kat is the resident sexologist at Adam & Eve and also runs a private practice and media consulting business. She has a Doctorate from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. Her professional affiliations include AASECT, SSSS, and the American Board of Sexologists. She also has a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and completed a postgraduate degree in Marriage, Family and Addictions Recovery Therapy.
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