Dr. Kat’s 28 Day Masturbation Challenge

If you’re a novice at getting yourself off, you’ll be glad to know that almost all people masturbate in some form or another. Here are a few tried-and-true techniques I’ve come up with over the years. These daily tips can help you make the most of your self-pleasuring.

First, you’ll want to find a place where you’ll be comfortable. Letting go of your inhibitions is easier if you’re not worrying about who might be walking through the door.

Speaking of company, try going it alone at first. There is more room for exploration and, learning to please yourself can be incredibly rewarding.

Pay attention to what turns you on. Adult videos or spicy erotic novels are always great fodder for fantasies. You can imagine your lover to be anyone, at all — even that cute bagger at the grocery store.

Enjoy the experience. Being goal-oriented can really undermine your enjoyment. Orgasms are great, but there’s a plethora of other stuff to enjoy along the way. Take your time.

Masturbation can become an art form in itself — whether you enjoy it sporadically, or use it frequently as a stress reliever. Don’t worry about what you think you should or shouldn’t be doing. Feel free to experiment with something new. There’s nothing wrong with using your old favorites, but it can be fun to branch out. But do make the effort to get down and dirty with yourself every single day for a month. It’s good for your body, mind and soul and can actually improve your sex life with your partner.28 Day Masturbation Challenge
Daily Challenge Tips:

Day 1: Try adding a little bit of visual inspiration. Watch an erotic DVD.

Day 2: Just add water. Try masturbating in the tub with a waterproof, battery powered toy.

Day 3: Lube — a girl’s best friend. Most good lubes can make everything from fingers, to toys, more slippery.

Day 4: Make noise! Groan, coo, moan, and talk dirty to your lovely self. Increase your dirty word vocabulary.

Day 5: Stimulate your G-spot.A specially designed G-Spot vibe will help you find your own personal pleasure zone.

Day 6: Love your clitoris! Let your fingers do the walking or add a toy to take you over the top. Use one that offers distinct clit friendly vibrations.

Day 7: Watch yourself in the mirror as you masturbate.

Day 8: Fantasize about double penetration and try it yourself with a dildo and a plug.

Day 9: If you’re new to using a vibrators and find them too intense, put a towel or cloth between your clit and the vibe to ease yourself into the action.

Day 10: Masturbate with your lover. You can begin by turning on one another one with some visuals.

Day 11: Stimulate your nipples while you get off.

Day 12: Add a little anal play. Try a great starter toy like My First Anal Toy.

Day 13: Dual vibes are perfect for those who want it all. It delivers clitoral and vaginal stimulation simultaneously.

Day 14: Fuel your fantasies with the eye candy of Adam and Eve’s Guide to the Kama Sutra.

Day 15: Get out of your dildo rut with the elegant acrylic crystal wand.

Day 16: Ejaculating isn’t just a guy thing. Check it out information online about female ejaculation.

Day 17: Batteries — If you’re into vibes you can’t be caught without them.

Day 18: Get the most out of your coffee breaks with a discreet vibe neatly tucked in your desk drawer.

Day 19: Being stuck in traffic isn’t so bad when you have the discreet Fingo Nubby vibe to keep you company.

Day 20: Turn up the heat on your next date with your lover. Have them control your pleasure while no one is the wiser with vibrating panties.

Day 21: Get excited. Increase your heart rate to increase your arousal. Go for a run, watch a scary movie, or read Lisa Renee Jone’s Inside Out Trilogy.

Day 22: Fantasize about the real thing while you use an ultra-realistic dildo.

Day 23: Let your mind wander to something you normally wouldn’t, even taboos.

Day 24: Walk around all day with a beautiful plug or Ben Wa Balls inside you.

Day 25: Use a glass dildo that has “bobbles” or “nubbs” on it – more for the vaginal muscles to grab onto.

Day 26: Understand his moves and get turned on in the process by watching him masturbate.

Day 27: Indulge in female genital massage with a natural wooden dildo.

Day 28: Explore new sensations with with a massage oil set.


 is the resident sexologist at Adam & Eve and also runs a private practice and media consulting business. She has a Doctorate from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. Her professional affiliations include AASECT, SSSS, and the American Board of Sexologists. She also has a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and completed a postgraduate degree in Marriage, Family and Addictions Recovery Therapy.

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