Exploring Sensation Play
When I tell people I went through a sensorium exercise in school they look at me pretty perplexed. In the years since, I’ve suggested sensoriums for clients. Sensoriums are simply an exercise where one person is blindfolded and led to a room that is filled with as many non-visual sensory experiences as possible. This way the blindfolded person can really focus on the sense of touch without visual stimulus. Between partners this can be an amazing way to develop intimacy and learn what truly turns your partner on. Plus you use the whole body in order to find all of his or her erogenous zones – not just the one or two you spend all you time on now (you know who I’m talking to out there).
There may be incense, music and various fabric that covers the furniture. Then when this loosely clothed or naked person is ready, they lie down on very plush bedding, then the real sensations begin.During their time there should be at least 12-30 sensations that are used on the blindfolded person. The implements should be varied. Anything from ice, fur, — even a hairbrush — can make the sensee’s skin tingle and breath quicken. If you are bold enough to use food as a tasty body treat, that can be fun too. Massaging various parts of the body (all play is non-genital at first) can be paired with an aromatherapy oil. Use the whole body as your canvas. Then switch places.
You can keep talking to a minimum and debrief later or as the sensations are happening the sense moans and groans about exactly what they do and don’t like. This exercise helps develop more trust between partners, improves sexual communication and just feels darn good.
Dr. Kat is the resident sexologist at Adam & Eve and also runs a private practice and media consulting business. She has a Doctorate from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. Her professional affiliations include AASECT, SSSS, and the American Board of Sexologists. She also has a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and completed a postgraduate degree in Marriage, Family and Addictions Recovery Therapy.
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