Hi I’m Dr. Kat and I have your sex tip for the day. Today’s sex tip has to do with sensate focus. That’s not probably a term you heard before but lots of sexologist use it when they’re working with couples who have issues around orgasm and ejaculation. It’s basically an exercise that you have to go through to help you get out of your head, out of issues with performance anxiety, and to help you orgasm and ejaculate the way that you want. This is how you do it.
Make sure that you have some private time, at least 2 to 4 times for that one whole week, so there’s no one interrupting you. No phones, no TVs on. Get naked, one gets into the bed while the other person strokes, touches, feels all the parts of your body that usually getting ignored. The one no-no here? You avoid the genitals. So you purposely stay out of the crotch region. Some people are okay with some nipple touching, but really avoid touching the penis or the vagina. What that does is it allows you to explore the rest of the body.
Whether it’s the back of the knee, the back of neck. And really explore what works for you, how is it making you feel, it’s getting you more processed-oriented versus your focus on the end goal which is orgasm and ejaculate. That’s not what all sex is about folks. So take some time, get comfortable, explore one another’s bodies, and then by the end of the week, most people find that they’re really anticipating having sex, and that they’ve learn to appreciate other part of the body. So that they’re not so focus on just the penis and vagina. Anyway, it can really be a great way to mix things up and whole of the aspect with your partner.