My Man’s Penis Is Too Big

Every so often here on the Adam and Eve blog, we tackle questions from our fans. Recently, we’ve had quite a few related to the topic of penis size  – as in when a guy’s johnson is “too big” for their partners. So what happens when your man’s penis is larger than you think your vagina can handle? What if you want to try anal sex, but you’re afraid his size might hurt? And how can you make sure you won’t gag on his member when engaging in oral sex? Here are a few tips, tricks and methods you can use to help adjust to your lover’s larger than life organ!

Oral Sex: Worried that the size of your guy’s penis will send you wrenching all over the bedroom? There are a few things you can do to give your guy a great bj, but without worrying about triggering off your gag reflex. Before you start you want to make sure that you’re in relaxed state of mind. Anxiety will heighten your gag reflex. You also want to be sure that your stomach is satisfied – not empty and hungry, but not overly stuffed as well. One method used by sex workers and adult film stars when going down on larger guys is to not actually put the entire penis into your mouth. Wrap your hand around the base of the penis as you would when you are giving a hand job, and move up and down with the rhythm of your mouth. This not only stimulates the shaft that wouldn’t ordinarily be able to fit into your mouth, it gives you a “bumper” that prevents him from going in too far.  Another tip is to use desensitizing throat spray like the Comfortably Numb line that can help relax your gag reflex to help you get more into your mouth.My Man's Penis Is Too BigAnal Sex: Getting into anal sex with a larger guy is all about the training! Just like you wouldn’t jump into a buttsex session without any warmup, you need to do the same thing when you’re taking on a bigger penis for the first time. Using a thick desensitizing anal lubricant can certainly help – just be sure they are compatible with any condoms you may be using. Work your way up to a larger size with fingers and sex toys before plunging in the real thing. Anal warm ups can be great foreplay! Take it slow and communicate with your lover. Be sure you are doing slow and long stroke as opposed to quick and pounding ones while you are getting used to his size. This will help prevent any tears or discomfort in your anal sex session.

Vaginal Sex: Time to increase that foreplay! Be sure your lover is spending enough time on you before he penetrates you. Arousal will not only get your natural lubrication flowing, it’ll relax your internal muscles. Try positions that let you control how deep he goes, such as those with you on top. Keep in mind as well, the closer together your thighs are, the more shallow the vagina is – so if you want to stick to missionary and don’t want him to go too deep, keep those legs closer together. The vagina is designed to stretch, so if you are repeatedly having problems accepting a penis, be sure to check with your doctor to be sure that you don’t have any problems down there, such as infections or cysts.