Successful Car Sex

All of us have done it at least once. Whether it was out of necessity or novelty we’ve had sex in a car.  But as a way to mix it up occasionally a little car sex can still be a fun option for those in long-term relationships. It can serve the purpose as a quickie for when parents are out and about or be a place to come together when you don’t want to spring for a hotel.  Is it romantic? Maybe not. But it can be a fun, convenient place to get it on. If you are looking to bring some spontaneity into your sex life, here are a few tips for having a successful session of car sex.

Privacy is key.  Yes, having sex in the open is part of the draw to the taboo of car sex but lets be smart about it shall we? No one needs to bet busted for public indecency so choose wisely. The cover of night and the privacy of side streets and dirt roads can’t be emphasized enough.

Who’s on top? Positioning for sex in the car can be tricky. Bucket seats in particular are notoriously uncomfortable when it comes to sex. Positions with one person straddling with their knees out and down between the seat and the center console  can even cause plastic burns. Ouch! If you have a great backseat you definitely have more position options. If not, the best position is with him seated in the passenger seat and with her on top, facing away from him for some rear entry access. This position is all the better with her legs inside of his, keeping the position compact and controlled.Successful Car Sex

Driving while sexed up. Do not – I repeat, do not attempt to have sex while someone is driving the car. I know the movies make this seem possible but it is simply not worth the risk of any short term high. I hate to say it but masturbation and oral sex should be off limits too. On the off chance that something goes wrong and attention is diverted from the road onto your impending orgasm, people have ended up in wrecks. If you survive it, you don’t want to have to come clean to the cops and if you don’t, well let’s just say you don’t need an obit that addresses your cause of death.

Caught with your pants down. The risk of getting caught is definitely part of what makes car sex so arousing. There are ways you can minimize the risk, like wear clothing that allows easy access like skirts with no undies for the ladies. Or just rely upon mutual masturbation so no one has to get out of his or her seat. Pulling yourselves together is much easier as well. But let’s say your friendly neighborhood po-po snags you. Are there any excuses that will get you out of this mess? Probably not but if you have kids you might appeal to the officer that this was the only quiet place that you could connect with your partner. Otherwise, honesty is always the best policy. The moral of this story is simple: just don’t get caught.


 is the resident sexologist at Adam & Eve and also runs a private practice and media consulting business. She has a Doctorate from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. Her professional affiliations include AASECT, SSSS, and the American Board of Sexologists. She also has a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and completed a postgraduate degree in Marriage, Family and Addictions Recovery Therapy.

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