The Importance of Alone Time in Any Relationship

I think anyone who has been in a live-in relationship has at one point or another felt like they were being smothered. It is easy to feel that all of the benefits of having someone to share their lives with are overshadowed by the specter of someone monopolizing every moment of time not spent at work. This can often lead to resentment, boredom, and a serious lack of desire in the bedroom. I must admit, I have been guilty of this in the past. And, it has cost me some relationships. But, I eventually learned.

In any healthy relationship, couples understand the value of spending time together, but also the value of spending time alone. Alone does not mean weeks apart. It means taking a day, an hour, a half hour to spend in private doing things that interest you without someone asking you questions, talking about what to have for dinner next Thursday, or invading your personal space. Taking time out to recharge our own batteries allows us to stay sane and happy and keep a positive mindset in our relationships.

Dr. Annette Colby, RD has 5 great reasons that alone time is important:

  1. Rediscover Self and Reevaluate Priorities
  2. Maintain Lust For Life
  3. Reduce Stress Levels
  4. Be With Your Own Feelings
  5. Maintain Independence

You can read her article here.

But mostly, I would like to hear your stories of how you spend time alone or how you are being suffocated and have no idea how to get through to your partner that you need some personal space.

Please leave your comments and let’s see what kind of common experiences we have.