90% of all women experience some sort of pain with intercourse during their lifetime. The friction of dry skin to dry skin can be attributed to either not creating enough vaginal lubrication on their own or not choosing the right lube for their needs. The correct lube can change any sexual experience from discomfort and pain to extreme pleasure.
What gets you wet?
Lubrication occurs when your brain interprets that you are turned on and sends a message to increase blood-flow into the pelvis, signaling the mucous membranes in the walls of the vagina to secrete a liquid — your natural lube. Liquid literally seeps from the bloodstream through the walls to the vagina. It is a process analogous to the erection and lubrication of the penis – you’ve heard of Cowper’s Gland fluid? Being dependent on blood-flow (along with many other processes in your body), lubrication can be affected by stress, pregnancy, nursing, menopause and even dehydration. It can also be affected by drugs such as decongestants and hormonal birth-control.
Because of these many factors, natural lubrication does not automatically correspond with mood. A woman may report feeling horny and yet be completely dry. Another woman may lubricate profusely without any sexual thought or stimulation.
Finding the Right Lube
Adding a little personal lube to your repertoire and be a way to address issues of dryness but also spice things up in the bedroom. There are a plethora of flavors, warming/cooling lubes, thicknesses, natural or long lasting lubes that fit the bill depending upon what you are looking for. Here are a few suggestions that are Dr. Kat approved…
Adam and Eve’s Water Based Sex Lube
This lube is perfect as an all-around lube that even works well with your sex toys. It’s non-sticky and is an easy clean up.
Best Silicone Based
Adam and Eve’s Signature Silicone Lubricant
Is thicker and lasts longer. It’s not meant for all sex toys so be sure you check that out first. But it easy great long lasting sex play and even play in the water.
Intimate Organics Flavored Lubricant
These lubes have the best flavor on the market. Maybe that’s because they are organic and bring natural flavors to life. They are perfect for oral play that turn into something more or as your standard lube that’s just a little special.
Melt Warming Lube
You can be gentle with your body and still give yourself plenty of lubrication with this lube. It has also been formulated for those peeps out there that have skin sensitivities.
Adam and Eve Non-Oxynol 9 Anal Lube
Ana sex is a different beast when it comes to lube. Yes, some lube is better than none but truly you want a lube that has been designed for the job. It’s rich and thick and has an extra anti-microbial additive with the non-oxynol 9.
So get out there and get your lube job on!
Dr. Kat is the resident sexologist at Adam & Eve and also runs a private practice and media consulting business. She has a Doctorate from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. Her professional affiliations include AASECT, SSSS, and the American Board of Sexologists. She also has a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and completed a postgraduate degree in Marriage, Family and Addictions Recovery Therapy.
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