Vibrator Myths

There are lots of myths when it comes to using vibrators and dildos. Sometimes there can be shades of truth but often the reality is quite different from what you and your partner might think.

Vibrators stretch out the vagina

False, my friends — the vagina is like an envelope; it stays closed, with the sides touching, until you insert something inside of it. When you remove the something (a penis, dildo, baby, shampoo bottle), the walls naturally close back into place. While your vagina may stretch if you make a habit of carrying a bowling ball around inside of it 24/7, it won’t stretch from regular vibrator use, even if you’re using a larger model. No one will be able to tell you’ve been using a vibrator from examining your vagina.

I’ll become addicted to the vibration

Well, this can be true. But addiction isn’t generally the right word. It won’t give you the shakes if you aren’t using it – only when you are , if you are using it properly. Jokes aside, you have nothing to worry about in terms of addiction. Masturbation is healthy, and many women can’t orgasm without the aid of a vibrator. Vibrators can teach you what kinds of stimulation you enjoy. Once you start experimenting with and enjoying your sexuality, it follows that you will be happier, healthier and less stressed in other areas of your life. An orgasm is a great stress reliever, and you can gain power and confidence from knowing exactly what you need to do to have one.vibrator myths

I don’t need to have partnered sex anymore

Many people think that once they learn to orgasm with a machine, they will no longer be able to enjoy sex. Just remember that there are many different types of sex (oral, vaginal, anal), which people have enjoyed since the dawn of humanity. Different types of stimulation yield different types of pleasure. Your vibrator may even make you appreciate sex more, as you learn more about your body and its responses as you explore.

I’ll desensitize myself

It’s a common myth that the powerful stimulation of a vibrator will desensitize your genitals, making them unresponsive to touch further down the line. Anyone can become accustomed to one particular touch, that’s why it’s good to mix up stimulation. It’s not a question of needing more powerful stimulation to reach orgasm each time. If you spend all day in bed with a very powerful vibrator, it’s possible that you might feel numb or sore, just like after sex. But the feeling will return.

I only have orgasms with vibrators

Most women need the intense clitoral stimulation that a vibrator provides to orgasm. Usually, this clitoral stimulation is missing from sex. It’s perfectly OK that you only orgasm with a vibrator but as mentioned above, if you’d like to add to variety, explore other stimulation like finger play, anal, nipple, vaginal. There is a multitude of ways to orgasm that just need to be incorporated.


 is the resident sexologist at Adam & Eve and also runs a private practice and media consulting business. She has a Doctorate from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. Her professional affiliations include AASECT, SSSS, and the American Board of Sexologists. She also has a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and completed a postgraduate degree in Marriage, Family and Addictions Recovery Therapy.

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