Hi I’m Dr. Kat and I’m here with your sex tip of the day. Today’s tip has to do with cheating and you have been just the cheatee. From the perspective of being the cheat-e, there are a couple of things you need to figure out. Number one, it freaking sucks no matter who you are to get cheated on. Do not go ballistic. Try to stay as calm, as cool and as collective as you can. Yes, you can express anger but don’t go crazy with it. The next thing to figure out is if you want to stay in the relationship.
You may not want to. But if you do, number one, you have to learn to forgive him or her. And number two, you cannot punish them forever about it. You have to get over it. There are plenty of people who have been into relationships who have gotten through affairs and actually come out the other end a little bit stronger for it. Be willing to talk to your partner, find out his or her motives, heal and move on. The best way to do that is usually through a therapist. Good luck.