Will Using A Vibe Too Much Break My Clit?

We’re fielding another question from our readers today, this time on the topic of clitoral desensitization from frequent use of vibrators!

Hello! I’m hoping you can help me out. My name is Stephanie, and I’m 30 years old. I bought one of those super powerful wand massagers a few months ago and it’s been giving me some AMAZING orgasms. The problem is, I’m now having difficulty orgasming unless I’m using that toy. My smaller vibes aren’t doing the trick anymore. Have I broken my clit? (Well, I know you can’t technically break a clit, but have I damaged it from using that massive wand massager too much?) Will Using A Vibe Too Much Break My Clit

Well, we’re glad to read that you are aware that you can’t actually break your clit, Stephanie – as you’re right! What you may be thinking about is nerve damage, but that can only occur when the actual nerve endings in the body go through trauma – usually something like them being cut or burned. Your wand massager won’t do that.

What you’re probably experiencing is a level of desensitivity. Assuming nothing else has changed (you’re not in a different point in your menstrual cycle where sexual sensitivity can change, your usual toys are still functioning well and the batteries are charged, and your health is as good as normal) the nerve endings in your clit may have adjusted to expect the super powerful level of vibrations that a wand massager can provide.

Think if it this way. Before, your body was reacting to a lower level of stimulation. The weaker vibes got the job done, and your body accepted this as what it needed to orgasm. Once you’ve introduced the more powerful vibrations, and used it frequently, your body’s expectations shifted to what this wand was providing. Basically, it knew that this higher level of sensation was the new norm, and to orgasm at this point.

Fixing this is easy, but it can be slightly sexually frustrating. You need to re-train your body to enjoy orgasms at this lower level. Some ladies ‘wean’ themselves off the wands – especially if you were always using it at the highest setting, while others go cold turkey. The up side is, this process doesn’t take long and many women are back to that original ‘orgasm base line’ in a week or two. We suggest you may want to do this process solo if you have a partner who gets hung up on not making you orgasm, or gets anxious if it takes more time than usual. You need to get your body to relax and accept this new level of stimulation and not have the worry about another partner’s feelings – for now.

This doesn’t mean you need to throw away your wand. If you find yourself repeatedly going through this desensitivity process, you might want to keep it as a ‘special occasion’ toy. At the very least, limiting yourself to the lower speed settling will make the transition back down to those little hand held vibes that much easier.

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